so after finding the basic numbers for the f&b min at spill the wine i've come to the conclusion that inviting all the persians may not be what i want to do after all. twenty fewer people on the guest list sounds mighty nice right now, but i don't want to offend them in any way, shape or form, especially if they feel obligated to buy us gifts despite the fact that they weren't invited. because offending persians is terribly frightening, especially when they're family friends who have watched you grow up (and have probably dealt with you wetting the guest bed once upon a time).
so here's how it breaks down:
30 guests $900 // 45 guests $1350
60 guests $1800 // 75 guests $2250
i'm hoping that all the little things can be done for about $1000-1500 (dessert, clothes, hair & makeup, small favors and trinkets to decorate the space, et cetera) because i'm so clever, creative, and resourceful. but then there's the $4000 photographer *gulp*
so with 30 guests and the photographer it comes to about $6000... but 75 guests (that's just about everyone) and no photographer is around $4000. so what is most important to me? that is the question, isn't it?
and to be honest--as much as this makes me an asshole--i'd rather have the photographer and cut the guest list short. because i really don't like being surrounded by tons of people and being the center of attention. if i did, i'd have chosen a much different career path. as much as they all deserve an invite, to be honest, i just don't know them all that well, as hard as that may be to believe. and 30 people isn't even all of our family members, who i feel are the definite A-list. But then what about my friends? I want them to be there, too. I just don't know if i can afford that guest list of 75 if i'm footing the bill.
but i'm still crossing my fingers that either the photographer will miraculously decide he doesn't want to charge me that much, or that someone else will foot that bill. ya never know, right?
of course, there is the chance that perhaps not everyone in my family will be attending. about half of them (unlike ryan's close-knit midwestern gang) are scattered around the country. and i don't think i'd classify them as having tons of money lying around so that they'd want to fly into minneapolis for a day to have dinner with me, wedding or no. then again, i am the only girl of the kids, and i doubt the boys will be getting hitched anytime soon, and this is pretty fair warning. i guess i'll just have to wait for rsvp's when the invitations are sent out a year and a half from now. HA!
i really don't know why i'm even planning stuff to this degree already. probably because it's a nice distraction from (and an excuse not to do work for) my classes. i guess what i should do first is figure out if anyone's helping me foot the bill or not (although i doubt anyone will).
and i'm beginning to think that maybe the honeymoon plans (wandering around australia for a week or two) might be a little much--and so if we have contributing to that as an alternative option for wedding gifters, we'd 1. not have the essential registry items and 2. possible not even collect enough for the trip at all. and then, of course, if we're traveling (especially overseas) we'd need to save up a considerable chunk of money in addition to the wedding fund. so i might nix that part of the plan.
i guess i should think about the guest list for a while yet and figure that all out.
not that i really need to do that 2.5 years in advance.
so here's how it breaks down:
30 guests $900 // 45 guests $1350
60 guests $1800 // 75 guests $2250
i'm hoping that all the little things can be done for about $1000-1500 (dessert, clothes, hair & makeup, small favors and trinkets to decorate the space, et cetera) because i'm so clever, creative, and resourceful. but then there's the $4000 photographer *gulp*
so with 30 guests and the photographer it comes to about $6000... but 75 guests (that's just about everyone) and no photographer is around $4000. so what is most important to me? that is the question, isn't it?
and to be honest--as much as this makes me an asshole--i'd rather have the photographer and cut the guest list short. because i really don't like being surrounded by tons of people and being the center of attention. if i did, i'd have chosen a much different career path. as much as they all deserve an invite, to be honest, i just don't know them all that well, as hard as that may be to believe. and 30 people isn't even all of our family members, who i feel are the definite A-list. But then what about my friends? I want them to be there, too. I just don't know if i can afford that guest list of 75 if i'm footing the bill.
but i'm still crossing my fingers that either the photographer will miraculously decide he doesn't want to charge me that much, or that someone else will foot that bill. ya never know, right?
of course, there is the chance that perhaps not everyone in my family will be attending. about half of them (unlike ryan's close-knit midwestern gang) are scattered around the country. and i don't think i'd classify them as having tons of money lying around so that they'd want to fly into minneapolis for a day to have dinner with me, wedding or no. then again, i am the only girl of the kids, and i doubt the boys will be getting hitched anytime soon, and this is pretty fair warning. i guess i'll just have to wait for rsvp's when the invitations are sent out a year and a half from now. HA!
i really don't know why i'm even planning stuff to this degree already. probably because it's a nice distraction from (and an excuse not to do work for) my classes. i guess what i should do first is figure out if anyone's helping me foot the bill or not (although i doubt anyone will).
and i'm beginning to think that maybe the honeymoon plans (wandering around australia for a week or two) might be a little much--and so if we have contributing to that as an alternative option for wedding gifters, we'd 1. not have the essential registry items and 2. possible not even collect enough for the trip at all. and then, of course, if we're traveling (especially overseas) we'd need to save up a considerable chunk of money in addition to the wedding fund. so i might nix that part of the plan.
i guess i should think about the guest list for a while yet and figure that all out.
not that i really need to do that 2.5 years in advance.
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